Managing a wedding budget for most brides may be as difficult as having only one pair of shoes for a woman. Why would a woman need more then one pair of shoes since the sole function of the shoe is to keep the feet warm and safe? The answer is simple: its more complex then just meeting our basic human safety needs! Its about wanting and feeling great not needing. The concept of a wedding dress is the same. Brides want not need and rightly so, this is their day and it is perfectly acceptable to want an amazing wedding gown.

If the only requirement of a wedding dress is for it to be white then the 3,000 or so bridal magazines and online publications would not be featuring pages and pages of wedding dresses designed to fit all body types, silhouettes and personal styles. Hence, why managing the budget for perfect wedding dress can be quite a task.

In order to simplify your pains, below are the budget do’s and don’ts of shopping for the dress:

First…the Do’s!

* Do scope wedding dress trunk shows and sample sales to find your perfect gown. Your dream wedding dress can cost you a fraction of the cost.
* Do bring on cost conscience friend of family member for feedback
* Do look a streamlined gowns, the more elaborate the design (especially anything handmade)t the more expensive the gown will be.
* Do try to accessories a simple gown within your price range with more elaborate accessories

Now the Don’ts!

* Don’t try on dresses outside you budget, its is really hard to resist a Vera Wang gown when you have a totally reasonable budget of $500 for your wedding dress. Stay within your means and you will prevent unnecessary heartache!

* Don’t purchase a wedding dress that requires major alterations. Alterations can really add up and sometimes cost juts as much as a wedding dress. For example, if your dress is priced at $500, your alterations can easily cost $300*$400, isn’t it better to allocate that amount towards a more expensive gown or more elaborately prices accessories?

* Don’t spend so much money on the shoes that you will only wear once, if you have a choice between a more expensive gown or a cheaper gown and pricey shoes, always go with the gown. No one will see your shoes, and even when people will see your shoes while you are dancing or taking pictures, it will be really hard to price them. Your wedding dress is the major focal point on your wedding date.

When you stop and think about it, often it’s not the big things — such as the church, the banquet, and the band — that make your wedding memorable. Rather, a few small personal touches will cause your wedding to stand out in the minds of the participants and guests for days, weeks, months, and years to come.

Have you thought about planning the wedding around a warm, friendly theme to tie everything together? If you are having the wedding in the autumn, you could choose autumn leaves as the theme. Create your own logo that uses autumn colors and a motto such as “Warm at Heart.”

When planning the wedding, your logo would appear on your invitations, decorations, guest book, and programs. As part of the ceremony, the speakers and singers could perform pieces that relate to the theme. It is always so thoughtful to publish some of the poems and songs in the program you give to guests so they have a wedding remembrance to keep.

Autumn flowers are especially beautiful for table displays and of course the bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres. The wedding attendants can wear autumn colors. The flower carriers can drop autumn leaves instead of flowers. Your tables can be named autumn colors, such as gold, green, orange, crimson, etc., or other autumn themes, such as cornucopia or hearth, and decorated to reflect the theme.

To round out wedding planning, the favors should fit into the wedding theme. Perhaps you can create little jars of home-made soup mix, pasta, or risotto the guests can prepare at home. Decorate the little jars with your wedding logo, ribbons, and flowers. This little food gift will give your guests another opportunity to re-live the joy of the wedding after they get home.

When your guests receive your thank you note in the mail a few weeks later with your logo, they will smile and remember the little things you did to make the wedding so memorable. A cute wedding planning idea is to put on the thank you note a photo of you and your spouse on the honeymoon with both of you wearing T-shirts, one of which says, “Thank” and the other “You.”

These ideas are just some of the little touches that will make people remember your wedding. You can find many more ideas on the Internet. There are literally hundreds of websites that are filled with great ideas on wedding planning, themes, invitations, favors, music, poems, flowers, and thank you notes. Just take a look around and use your imagination. Pretty soon your mind will be brimming over with novel ideas!

So you’ve been to your local bookstore, surveyed the rather large collection of wedding books and wondered how anyone even gets through this whole planning process… and why all those wedding planning books are so thick!

This is completely understandable – it is a bit on the daunting side. Planning a wedding is definitely not something you can throw together in a matter of days, and there will certainly be quite a few projects along the way to keep you busy.

But these ‘projects’ can actually be fun – a lot of fun! And with a plan, you may even find yourself looking forward to them…

1.) Most importantly, keep things SIMPLE.

There will always be another photographer to interview, another centerpiece idea, another wedding favor website. When you find something that “clicks” with you, go with it! You’ve just crossed off one more thing on your wedding checklist.

2.) Decide on a good filing system before you begin.

Order a box of file folders or an accordion file with multiple sections to hold all of your contracts, notes, etc. If you’re really ambitious, consider investing $20-30 in a labeler at an office supply store – it keeps things especially neat and organized. As you go along, designate one folder for each aspect of your planning — caterer, rehearsal dinner, guest list, etc.

3.) Get started! Begin tackling items on your wedding checklist.

Look at the first group of to-do’s on the list. Don’t try to do all of these at once – take one at a time and consider putting the others on your calendar so that you know they’ll get taken care of, just not all today.

4.) Don’t be afraid to delegate.

Family members and attendants will more than likely be willing to help take on some of the planning tasks – if they offer, take them up on it! If there are parts of the planning that you know you don’t need to be (or care to be) directly involved in, ask for help.

5.) Have FUN.

While some tasks will take longer than others, there will be others that will balance out all of the hard work – treating yourself to a day at the spa for example. Also, consider subscribing to one or more bridal magazines – when you think you’ve run out of wedding ideas, these glossy guides are a great pick-me up.

6.) And lastly, don’t worry that you won’t possibly be able to do all of these things…

Everything will get done, in due time, and you’ll see all of your hard work pay off when things really start to come together. So start planning, and have fun!

Even the smallest things can help save money on a wedding.

For brides, making just a few changes can help save a few pennies and trim a few dollars off the cost without making a huge impact on how a wedding looks and feels.

1. Book your venue early. Some places will give discounts for couples who book their venues well in advance.

2. Plan your wedding off-season. June, September and July tend to be popular months for weddings. By having your wedding in off months, October through April, you may be able to save money on the place you hold your reception. Planning your wedding for a day other than Saturday can save you money as well.

3. Make your own invitations. Using simple word processing and desktop publishing software and nice paper, you can make your own invitations. The best benefit is that making your own helps you to create something one-of-a-kind.

4. Consider the church fellowship hall or your mom’s backyard. Many brides are taking advantage of free venues to save money. Finding a good, free location to hold your reception can save thousands.

5. Forego the photographer for the reception. Instead, place disposable cameras on the reception tables and let guests take pictures for you.

6. Ask your caterer about children’s plates. Some caterers will discount children’s plates by as much as 50 percent. If your reception is family-oriented and includes children, the savings could really be substantial.

7. Consider gown alternatives. If you’re not super-sentimental about your wedding dress, consider alternatives such as buying your gown from a thrift store, buying a plain dress and embellishing it yourself, or even having your dress custom-made. Many seamstresses can make a simple wedding dress for less than the cost of one from a wedding store.

8. Use family and friends to the best of their abilities. If members of your family or your friends have special talents — your sister can do calligraphy, your uncle is a florist, your soon-to-be brother in law is a DJ — ask them for their specialized help.

9. Buy bridesmaids dresses from stores other than a bridal salon. Many retail stores, such as Sears, or catalogue businesses, like Speigel, will sell cocktail dresses during the holiday season. Buy bridesmaids’ dresses after the holidays, when they go on sale.

10. Forego save-the-date cards. Instead, send electronic invitations, like Evite, months before the big day to let people know what you’re planning.

A wedding doesn’t have to be a black-tie affair, but with a little planning it can be the day of your dreams, for less.

Just remember, if you get married in blue jeans and serve bologna, you’re still married. And that, ultimately, is what’s most important.

Holiday season is a time of celebration, family gatherings, and engagements! Now that the ornaments are boxed, food is eaten, and ring resized the difficult process of wedding planning looms in the distance. One of the most difficult choices for a future bride is deciding on her wedding dress. If you are guilty of watching “Say Yes to the Dress” as I am, but my reasons are purely for research of course, you will have had a glimpse into the wedding dress world. This is an entirely different place than the regular clothing world. This world contains superlatives and notions such as “the most special day of your life”, “since you were a little girl”, “everyone is watching”, “you can never do this over” and “everything must be perfect on this day, including you”.

All of the dress stress on top of everything else can take the blush out of any bride. How can anyone function successfully under this amount of pressure? Not to fret…Dr. B, with the help of wedding planner Nerissa Montemurro of Private Receptions, is here to ease your wedding worries!

Dr B’s Tips:

1. During any difficult time you must use what little energy you have left to actively de-stress. Stressful situations cause arousal. Kuznet’s Inverted-U Hypothesis teaches us that too much or too little arousal can decrease performance levels while completing a task. For most individuals, it is the moderate amount of stress that helps us perform at our peak. Remember this when shopping for a dress.

2. Take a time out from all things wedding. Give yourself one day to remove any talk of dresses, cakes, reception, and flowers out of your vocabulary. Store your bridal magazines and block your wedding update emails. Removing yourself from your wedding will put things into perspective, remove unnecessary emotion, increase your objective view of this day, and help you decide on the dress. It will also serve as a reminder that life went on before your wedding and will go on after your wedding no matter the outcome.
3. Remember what this day is really about. Although your wedding day is important, getting married has nothing to do with this one day or the dress. Getting married is really about the commitment you make to your partner, and the decision to build a life with your spouse. The wedding day is merely an arbitrary marker for this commitment. If your focus is funneled into only the wedding day you may be ignoring signs that you should not marry your partner, need to work on your relationship, or must strengthen the actual marriage.

4. If you look back on this day what will you remember? Whenever I need to make an important decision in my life or have hit a difficult period in my life, I always ask myself “When I am 90 years old what would I have wished I had done?” Asking this question has prompted me to move to California, write a book, jump in Lake Momar in my dress, and turn down a job in NYC. If ever perspective was important it is on your wedding day, so ask the question! I promise you the answer will not be the flowers, dress, or cake!

5. You must feel physically and emotionally comfortable in your dress. Your dress should allow you to dance all night and actually breathe! You also want a dress which makes you feel spectacular in your own skin. This is not the time to try something drastically different or experiment with a new look. You want to feel like the most beautiful version of you!

6. You need to create a signature look which is informed by your day-to-day wardrobe. Maybe your love for belts, color, or jewelry sets you apart from the rest every day as well as on this special day! Consider a colorful sash, vintage brooch, or elegant hairpin.

7. Remember you. This day and this dress are yours. Take your first step in assertiveness and boundary setting in your new life with your dress choice. Also remember what looks good in a magazine may not work for you. Ignore Tim Gunn’s mantra “Make it work” and just move on to something better.

8. No self-punishment! Remember you want to look you best on your wedding day not like some over-bleached, burnt, and starving version of yourself. Save the crash diets, body wraps, celery sticks, tanning beds, and spray tans for another time.

9. Break all the rules…even mine. You don’t have to wear white, you don’t have to wear a dress, you don’t even have to wear anything all, just as long as it makes you celebrate on, what I hope will be, the happiest day of your life.
Nerissa’s Know How:

10. I always suggest for a bride to go shopping by herself the first time around. Get a feel for what she likes without the approval or disapproval from family and friends. Once she has an idea of her top 2 or 3 styles and/or designers then narrow it down with the help of family and friends.

11. Brides need to understand the difference between a TV and the real live dressing room. Nine out of 10 times women try on too many dresses looking for the moment where they break into tears and say “this is the dress!” Nine out of 10 times that doesn’t happen. You could love 5, 10, 15, dresses you try on. Remember to work with the figure you have highlighting your strengths. Next remember the type of affair you are having and make sure the dress is suitable for the season, time of day, venue, and the overall environment.

12. Sometimes the dress you thought you’d never wear is the one you end up with. Be flexible when trying on different styles.

13. Be honest about your budget. If you don’t have one…get one. Everyone has a budget, and it’s best to shop within it. Saves you time, heartache, and debt.